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Inspiring Quotes

Inspiring Quotes

The most dangerous way we sabotage ourselves is by waiting for the perfect moment to begin. Nothing works perfectly the first time, or the first fifty times. Everything has a learning curve. The beginning is just that—a beginning. Surrender your desire to do it flawlessly on the first try. It's not possible. Learn to learn. Learn to fail. Learn to learn from failing. And begin today. Begin now. Stop waiting. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Plenty of people will think you're crazy, no matter what you do. Don't let that stop you from finding the people who think you're incredible—the ones who need to hear your voice because it reminds them of their own. Your tribe. They're out there. Don’t let your critics interfere with your search for them. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Instead of labelling your emotions as problems to solve, you can see them as signals to interpret. Instead of judging your desires as shameful aberrations, you can learn to meet them in healthier ways. Instead of calling yourself critical names when you cannot build or break certain habits, you can explore your motivations. You can become a student of yourself rather than always seeking a wiser teacher. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

The most profound personal growth does not happen while reading a book or meditating on a mat. It happens in the throes of conflict—when you are angry, afraid, frustrated. It happens when you are doing the same old thing and you suddenly realize that you have a choice. Each wave that rolls onto the shore must release back to the ocean. You are the same. Each wave of action you take must release back to the peace within you. Stress is what happens when you resist this natural process. Everyone needs breaks. Denying this necessity does not remove it. Let yourself go. Realize that, sometimes, the best thing to do is absolutely nothing. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Perhaps the most liberating moment of my life was when I realized that my self-loathing was not a product of my inadequacy but, rather, a product of my thoughts. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Love Mindset.

Change is not something you do. Change is something you allow. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Temporary, but excruciating, pain is the price of healing. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Love Mindset.

We throw away real people searching for the perfect person the same way we throw ourselves away searching for our perfect self. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Love Mindset.

A happy person is not without sorrow or grief. Happiness is the acceptance of pain, not the lack of it. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

You have been searching for answers, but you are the answer. You have been looking for the path, but you are the path. You have been working on the perfect mask, but you already have such a beautiful face. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

Your inner conversation is more than the sum total of thoughts that roll around in your head from day to day. It is the relationship you have with yourself and how that relationship connects you to the rest of existence. It is the lens through which you perceive reality. Thus, it defines the world you think you live in—a place that might be radically different from the real world. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

Self-discovery changes everything, including your relationships with people. When you find your authentic self, those who loved your mask are disappointed. You may end up alone, but you don’t need to stay alone. While it’s painful to sever old connections, it’s not a tragedy. It’s an opportunity. Now, you can find people who understand the importance of looking for truth and being authentic. Now, you can find people who want to connect deeply, like you’ve always wanted to, instead of constant small talk and head games. Now, you can have real intimacy. Now, you can find your tribe. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Your journey will be different from the journeys of others. Allow it to be. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

The more you've struggled, the more inspiring your story will be when you come out the other side. Do not give up. Today's struggle brings tomorrow's wisdom. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Love is not a side effect of how we relate to ourselves and others—it is the origin of those relations. Love is not only a necessity of life; it is the origin of life. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Love Mindset.

Self-awareness is a way of life. It is not a fad. It is not a pill. It is not a cream you can apply to the rash on your heart. Self-awareness is like eating, breathing, sleeping. There will be no fireworks, no miracle transformation. Instead, you will experience a slow, conscious, and often painful unraveling of your highest potential. One day, you will see that this is more magical than any so-called magic potion. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

Don’t let your ideas about what you can do keep you from trying. And don’t sell yourself short just because other people didn’t (or don’t) see your potential. You don’t need to treat yourself as poorly as you’ve been treated. With a bit of curiosity, you can untangle yourself from the web of others’ expectations and judgments. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

You cannot control the emotions, thoughts, or memories that torment you, but you can control how you choose to respond to them. And if you don’t respond as planned, you can control your response to that failure. You can meet your disappointments with acceptance and curiosity instead of judgment and criticism. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

The first leg of our healing journey, we spend paralyzed. We watch ourselves doing the same old thing, unable to stop it. This is normal. We begin deaf. Then, we learn to listen. Then, we gain the ability to speak. Pressuring yourself to take action right away would be like forcing yourself to sleep in the daytime. The day has another purpose. As do the early phases of awareness. Paralysis teaches you to embrace uncertainty, build curiosity, and practice acceptance. What a gift. Life keeps you from speeding through her lessons. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

Blame is a cigarette. It soothes your mind and your muscles when you take a drag on it. It feels like it helps. If you do this for long enough, often enough, you forget that it helps only because it takes away the same stress it creates. Blame is an addiction. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

If you plant a hundred seeds in poor soil and nothing sprouts, you may cry at the failure. If, instead, you plant those seeds in fertile soil, some will still fail, but you will not cry because you will be too busy nursing the seeds that have sprouted. Self-awareness is that fertile soil. It does not remove failure; it helps you cultivate your potential despite it. Then, you can stop dubbing yourself a poor gardener. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

Allow yourself to trust that the bigger pattern of life resides within you as much as you reside within it. Trust that there is already something going on. Trust that, when you are not holding yourself together so tightly, you will not fall apart. Trust that the flow of life contains you, is bigger than you, and will take care of you—if you let it. Let yourself experience this. Let yourself practice. You cannot build self-trust by reciting affirmations all day. You have to get out there and take some chances. Experience life. Experience yourself. Taste yourself fully. It won’t just give you happiness and meaning; it’ll also protect you from the flavour experts who are out to sell you on being a better recipe than you already are. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

You are not a broken object to be fixed. You are a complex puzzle to be unriddled. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

No tree tries to become a certain kind of tree. No flower tries to become a certain kind of flower. The tree and the flower open up to the sun and soak up water. Thus, they grow into themselves. No judgment. No expectations. No commentary. Your task is the same. If you can stop trying so hard to become who you think you should be, and instead commit to understanding and nourishing yourself, you will bloom into whatever kind of person you are. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

I may never be healed; but each day, I am healing. My work is never finished, but I have grown to love working. My life is my art. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

No map can lead you to a place that doesn’t exist. No miracle diet can help you achieve a sculpted body that does not need nutrition or exercise. No self-help seminar can help you become a perfect person who never says the wrong thing. No guidebook can gain you the approval of every single person you come across. These outcomes are not real. They are illusions. Self-improvement requires self-understanding, and self-understanding is not a place but a path. And there are no maps for your path because it doesn’t exist yet. You must create it yourself by conquering the unexplored territory within. Only Arthur could draw the sword Excalibur from the stone, and only you can map your path of self-discovery. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

No matter how painful the reality, it is reality nonetheless. There is dignity in facing the truth without trying to cut it down to a more manageable size. There is honour in acceptance. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

It all comes back to curiosity. We live in a society that objectifies us as sexual objects and status symbols. We learn to flatten ourselves and others into little words: good and bad, ugly and pretty, right and wrong, lovable and unlovable. Then, we try to discover who we are through these labels. It doesn’t work. Because a human being is more than a signpost onto which we can plaster our judgments. A person is more than a sack of flesh to lose, keep, or throw away. A human being cannot be packaged into a stale idea. A person must be experienced to be known, and this knowledge ends the moment you stop looking. Each one of us is a mystery. And the more aware you become, the more mysterious it gets. The reward for seeking truth is not the truth itself. The gift is wonder. The gift is love. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

You don’t need to wait for someone else to notice your talents before nourishing them. You don’t need others to accept you to feel accepted. You don’t need to wait. You can begin, at any moment, to work on noticing, nourishing, and accepting yourself. You can work on being a better friend to your reflection. You can start listening to yourself like you wish other people would. You can become curious about who you are. You can begin to learn the language of your mind and body so that you can decode it, understand it, speak it. You can work on understanding yourself instead of always trying to make yourself into someone else. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

To explore yourself as you are, you must break free of your preconceived notions about this “self.” To find the answers to your questions, you must break free of your assumptions. You cannot write in a notebook that is already full. You cannot hear the subtle melody of one harp over a thundering orchestra. You cannot fall in love with your face if you do not take off the mask you’ve painted with society’s expectations. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

If someone else notices our qualities and talents, we think those parts of us must be worthwhile. Our potential floats like an island in the sea—uncharted, unexplored. We long for someone to discover us, admire us, colonize us. But why must it be another person? Why can’t you sail that voyage and explore yourself? Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

Your skin is your skin. Your legs are your legs. Your hair is your hair. Your smile is your smile. Your past is your past. You can waste your life hating these things, but you may as well learn to accept them. Both routes are difficult and full of pain, but with acceptance, you will be happy one day, while with hatred, you never will. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Throughout your life, you have embraced some things, and you have abandoned others. You have been assertive, and you have been calm. You have listened, and you have spoken. So you already know how to hold on, let go, speak up, shut up, light up, and calm down. You don’t need anyone to tell you what to do. You can figure that out for yourself—if only you can unleash your wild curiosity about the mysteries within you. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

Some people say they don’t believe in God, but they believe in an energy that moves through all living things. Others say they do believe in God, and they claim God is an energy moving through all living things. Some people believe in a holy book, and their faith gives them the same feeling of certainty that sustains people of other faiths as well as non-believers. Over this, we start wars. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

Trying to fix ourselves while pretending to love ourselves doesn’t work. We don’t heal through objectification. We heal through understanding. We need to feel appreciated by the people who help us—ourselves included. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

If you were in a toxic relationship with someone, you were in the same toxic relationship with yourself in your head. Leaving is not a shortcut to healing. Neither is blame. And neither is compassion. There is no shortcut. Healing hurts. It tears you apart. It allows you to rebuild a new, stronger version of yourself. It takes time, pain, and patience. It’s messy. It doesn’t happen overnight. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

You cannot fall in love with your face if you do not take off the mask you’ve painted with society’s expectations. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

They say, be happy with what you have. Well, sometimes, what you have is the choice to walk away. You can be happy with that too. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Some journeys, we must take alone. The caterpillar does not judge itself for craving the cocoon. Do not fear the isolated path. There, you will not be lonely. You will meet yourself. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Every ounce of truth you drink from the present moment washes away your assumptions. Awareness strips you naked. It hurts, but it also heals. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

Imagine how different your life could be if you committed to discovering the reasons for your reactions rather than always trying to augment them. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

When your own approval means more than the approval of others, that is self-love. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Before you make a sacrifice to help someone, ask yourself: What if I get no gratitude in return? Or what if it doesn’t help? If you wouldn’t regret doing it, that’s love. Everything else is guilt and obligation. Beware the difference. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Through struggle, we discover our strength. Don't give up. Find out what you're made of. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

You're already stuck with yourself for a lifetime. Why not improve this relationship? Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from The Art of Talking to Yourself.

Forgiveness does not imply friendship. You can accept, forgive, and walk away. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Within you is a fountain of wisdom. And you sell yourself short each time that you allow some authority to define your limitations and cage your potential. Even if that authority lives in your head. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

True love is inseparable from self-love or love for life. True love is a kind of awareness about ourselves, about people, about the magic of existence. And it starts inside of you. It starts the moment that you stop searching for love on the outside and let it flow from within. Whether you’re alone or romantically involved, it doesn’t matter. Love begins when you let your heart and mind fall open. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Kindness that turns to bitterness when it is not appreciated was never kindness at all. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is walk away, so that you don't become addicted, controlling, or blind. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Before you can go anywhere, you must accept where you are. Only the journey that begins with self-acceptance ends with self-improvement. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Hope for the future lies in each of us looking within. By learning to feed your own hunger, you can overcome the tempting illusions all around you. By discovering who you are, you can stop basing your self-image on other people’s ideas about you. By connecting to your inner strength, you can stop cycling between idealistic illusions and self-hating disillusionment. By taking responsibility for yourself, you can stop relying on others to take responsibility for you. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

When you make a conscious decision to be more curious about your experience, you will naturally stop resisting, judging, and criticizing it. The more you embrace each moment, the more you will be able to embrace yourself. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

The most tragic war of our time is the one within. A war between what we knew as children and what we’ve learned as adults. A war between wisdom and intelligence. A war between the natural colour of our hair and the colour we chemically impose upon it. A war between the manicured hedges and the untouched wilderness. A war between reality and fairy tales. A war between what we could learn about the world and what we are systematically taught. A war that can end in peace. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Art of Talking to Yourself.

"If you long for kindness, be kind. If you long for attention, be attentive. Give to others what you desire most. Most importantly, give to yourself. Don't sit and wait to receive. Learn to give generously to yourself and others." ~Vironika Tugaleva

Sometimes, breaking down is the bravest thing you can do. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

If you are feeling irritated by people, don’t stew and don’t judge yourself. Rather, listen to your emotions. Needing solitude is a natural part of life's harmony. The most compassionate people in the world are ones who listen when their inner self calls for aloneness. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Most of your healing journey will be about unlearning the patterns of self-protection that once kept you safe. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

There is a difference between working hard to create a life that truly serves you and working hard to create a life that you’ve been told you should want. Each wave that rolls onto the shore must release back to the ocean. You are the same. Each wave of action you take must release back to the peace within you. Stress is what happens when you resist this natural process. Everyone needs breaks. Denying this necessity does not remove it. Let yourself go. Realize that, sometimes, the best thing to do is absolutely nothing. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva from her book The Love Mindset.

In some ways, we will always be different. In other ways, we will always be the same. There is always room to disagree and blame, just as there is always room to take a new perspective and empathize. Understanding is a choice. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

To liberate yourself from your own self-judgment is to liberate others from it as well. To love yourself is an act of love for the world. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

"Don't settle for labels that presume you will never heal. Believe in yourself. Find a tribe who understands and believes in you too. Don't ever give up. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

I could not see beauty until I held hands with chaos in silence. Poem by Vironika Tugaleva.

Never, ever stop feeling. Never go numb. The world, even with all its horror, is too beautiful to miss. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Emotional pain cannot kill you, but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

The most important freedom is freedom from your own self-judgment. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Don't let what you thought you were yesterday keep you from becoming what you're meant to be today. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

It seems like everyone these days is putting on a mask to feel beautiful, trying to fit into some pre-established norms of how we should look. This isn’t only painful, it’s ignorant. Saying like we know, better than nature does, what is beautiful and what is not is like a two-year-old lecturing an old man about patience. Nature’s been creating beauty for millennia and you are part of that creation process. Stop the madness. Stop fighting who you are. Let the mask fall. It’ll be strange at first, yes. But, over time, you’ll see beyond the temporary discomfort of stepping outside social norms and learn to see the beauty you were born with, the beauty you’ve been taught to ignore and cover up. You’ll see beauty that will take your breath away, like a sunset. That’s how beautiful you are—like a sunset, like a forest, like a million fireflies on a calm warm night lighting up the sky. You are made by nature. Nature is wiser in the ways of beauty than cosmetics companies or magazines. Break the spell. Gain back your sanity. Go find that brilliant beauty within every single part of you. Go find the universe in your eyes. Remove that cloak that’s been pulled over your eyes and see yourself for who you really are. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

To love unconditionally does not mean to give your unconditional time. Sometimes, to love completely, we must never see someone again. This, too, is love—giving someone the freedom to exist and be happy, even if it must be without you. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Self-respect is holding your own hand, taking yourself home, where you belong. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

You can only love yourself as much as you trust yourself. So fly blindly and have faith. You already know who you are, what you want, and where you want to go. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

In your heart, you have a song that will change the world, once you give yourself permission to sing. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

The people in your life will either help you shake hands with yourself or they’ll teach you what you don’t want. Everyone, eventually, does one or the other. All pain transforms to learning. All love transforms to self-awareness. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

The answers to your problems lie all around you. The keys to your self-discovery are waiting to be found in each sunset, each pair of eyes, each breath of fresh air. Listen to the symphony of life and you will hear yourself. Find the beauty of nature and you have found your soul. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Let self-awareness be your science. Let self-discovery be your research. Let your intuition be your expert. Let your endless curiosity be your teacher. And, above all, find out what makes you smile. That is the most important study you can ever undertake. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

I am happy not because I am without pain, but because I know I am not that pain. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

I am grateful to those who support me and grateful to those who have hurt me. I am grateful to those whom I've forgiven and those who refuse to forgive me. I am grateful to those who judge me and those whom I have judged in the past. You are all my teachers. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Happiness isn't about pretending there's no pain. It's about accepting the pain as a part of healing and doing your best to nurse your own wounds with love and patience. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

A healthy mind observes and questions itself. This is the path to inner peace and happiness. Don't believe everything you think. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Never pass up the opportunity to tell a person that they matter, that it’ll be okay, that you care. Hope is easy to renew and deadly to lose. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

It’s not enough to wish, dream, hope. Even children know this. We must set sail into the sea of uncertainty. We must meet fear face-to-face. We must take our dreams as maps for a greater journey. Dreams, to come true, need a good story. So go live one. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Your mind requires care, attention, and training, just like your body. Learn to watch your thoughts without believing them. You may just save your life. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

At the end of the day, your relationships with the people in your life will be greater assets than any material things. Take time. Be present. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Forgiveness does not liberate the recipient from responsibility. It liberates you from the past. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

If the past keeps coming to knock at your door, answer it. Have a conversation. Try to learn something. Then, tell it why you are moving on. You cannot simply ‘push’ your past suffering out of your mind. You must listen to it, learn from it, and consciously decide to let it go. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

Fly blindly, trust is full of magic. Let your wild voice guide the way. Quote by Vironika Tugaleva.

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